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Thursday January 18th, 2018
2:00pm - 4:00pm

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Thursday January 18th, 2018
7:00pm - 9:00pm

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Funeral Service

St. Mary's Episcopal Church
Friday January 19th, 2018

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Paula J Stockman

Paula J. Stockman, 64, of South Dayton, NY, died peacefully in her home on Saturday, January 13, 2018.

She was born March 2, 1953, in Cuba NY, to the late Paul (Jake) and Mary Kruger. 

She was the first of four children; her siblings Karen (Michael) Farwell, Karl (Marsha) Kruger and Gail (Daniel Frank) Kruger survive.

Paula grew up in Friendship, NY. At a very young age (12) she began playing the piano in her father's Big Band, The Clubmen. She also enjoyed being the church organist at St. Andrew's Episcopal Church and the First Baptist Church in Friendship as a teenager, and accompanying the school chorus on piano. Her family's love of music is how she became introduced to her sweetheart and lifelong companion, Timmie J. Stockman,

as he was a music student of her father's. They were childhood and high school sweethearts, and they continued to play music together for 40 years, entertaining at various clubs with their Little Big Band and playing special music together at their church, St. Mary's Episcopal Church, in Gowanda, where she was the organist for almost 40 years.

Paula earned her Bachelor's Degree at SUNY Fredonia, during which time she studied abroad in France. She and Tim got married in 1975. They bought their home in South Dayton in 1979 and began the "labor of love," working together to renovate the property. She briefly taught math in the public school system prior to committing her time to her family as a stay-at-home-mother.  She enjoyed spending time with her children, Troy and Kendra, and became involved in several activities with the children. She was a Girl Scout leader and also became involved in the Boy Scouts. She was also known as "Mama Stockman" to several of the kids at Pine Valley Central School, who still come "home" from time to time for some meatloaf.

Paula became the Village Clerk in South Dayton in the early 1990s. She also had the opportunity to serve her community as a Legislator for Cattaraugus County, where, in the latest few years, she was elected the Chairman.  Paula continued to hold these positions until her death.

Paula was a Christian woman with unwavering faith. She loved to help others, and she was always seeking out individuals who needed assistance. She ministered to the sick, the elderly, and anyone who needed her help. She believed in truth, honesty, and integrity. She enjoyed being a member of the American Legion and Veterans of Foreign Wars Auxiliaries, and she was an active member of the Friendship Homecomers Association Committee for 18 years.

Surviving are her husband of 42 years, Timmie J. Stockman, whom she married October 18, 1975; two children: Troy (Courtney Aquila) Stockman of Collins NY, and Kendra (Dennis Brooks) Stockman of Jamestown NY, three grandchildren: Lily Nuwer, Tiller Stockman, and Riley Brooks. Also survived by several beloved nieces and nephews.

Relatives and friends may visit DiStasio Funeral Home 478 route 83 at Balcom Corners, South Dayton Thursday from 2PM to 4PM and 7PM to 9PM. A funeral Service will take place Friday at St. Mary’s Episcopal Church 75 Center St. Gowanda, NY at 11 AM.

Memorials may be made to St. Mary’s Episcopal Church


Paula was my Girl Scout leader growing up she was always so positive and fun to be around! I am so Sorry for your loss Mr. Stockman, Kendra, Tim may God grant you peace in your time of loss!

Tiffany (Bishop)Bragg Jun 16 2018 12:00 AM

A candle was lit in memory of Paula Stockman

Gary and Debbie Ofinowicz Jan 19 2018 12:00 AM

Mr. Stockman,
I am very sorry to hear of your loss. Prayers for peace at this time.

Barb Chitwood-Mittelstadt Jan 19 2018 12:00 AM

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Expression of Sympathy Jan 18 2018 12:00 AM

Ed and I are trustees of Little Valley and will miss Paula. She was a great speaker at our Municipal Dinners and a great leader for Cattaraugus County. Her shoes will be hard to fill. Rest in Peace Paula.

Ann Poole and Ed Wilbur Jan 18 2018 12:00 AM

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Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this difficult time. Love your friends & neighbors on Country Lane, Davis Family & Wegman Family

Expression of Sympathy Jan 18 2018 12:00 AM

Dear Tim and family, We were so very shocked to hear about your loss. It is also our loss as Paula and I were good friends and will always remember the good times we shared not only during our school years but after also. She was in our wedding will always treasure those beautiful times we spend together. We pray that you, Tim and the family will heal during days to come. Will not be easy. We have all been where you are headed. Please know that we are praying with you! Love always, Gary and Debbie

Gary and Debbie Ofinowicz Jan 18 2018 12:00 AM

Kendra, Soooooooo sorry for the loss of your mom!!!! My prayers to you and your family in this difficult time!!! God Bless you always!!!!

Beth Vath Jan 18 2018 12:00 AM

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Expression of Sympathy Jan 18 2018 12:00 AM

A candle was lit in memory of Paula Stockman

Stacy (North) Helmic Jan 17 2018 12:00 AM

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